In real sense we do not control anything!

 

Saw this quote somewhere - “It makes no sense to worry about things you have no control over because there's nothing you can do about them, and why worry about things you do control?”

Over the years the focus of life has been to manage things which were in our control as we do not control others.

We don’t control other people, the weather, the economy or politics. We don’t even control our own bodies. We get issues, get sick, get old, and there’s little we can do. Except worry and think about it constantly. We drive ourselves nuts!

Then someone shared that we can control only our thoughts and ourself. It was insightful and I tried my level best to believe in this and practice it.

I made a point that whatever may be I will never hurt anyone intentionally or even un-intentionally and no hatred for anyone at all. I tried to remain positive in my thoughts and started practicing and initially it was helpful.

However last few years I realised that in real sense we do not control anything; not even our thoughts or actions. Inspite of being positive and always caring for others, the world was taking advantage of me and there was nothing I could control.

So there was a sense of helplessness and despair.

The power of almighty or destiny is much beyond all of us and we are doing good things as defined by destiny but all the wrongs are our own karma and we can not blame almighty for the same.

The feelings, thoughts, actions are just part of a larger self and the larger world. So we are just a drop in a large ocean and one day this drop will cease to exist. The only thing we can do is to go with the flow and do our karma ; living every moment as its last.

The plans made; the success, the money, the things and the people around us are as temporary as we are. They will keep on doing their karma (at times hurting you) and you will just do some of yours.

The living to Death is just a moment ( a millisecond) and thats the unknown to every human (we have made all scientific progress but this is beyond us). The purpose of life on this earth keeps on changing and its all dependent on circumstances and situations.

I have seen so many people changing and many times shocking. Probably my expectations from them were wrong and they were always internally something else and were projecting an image...I feel happy that I was able to keep only one thing with me - the sense of not hurting anyone and helping people whenever I can..

Honestly, I don't think in this life I will get clarity about self or people around us as last few years have been very enlightening – both in positive and negative sense and probably the people around us will keep on doing their karma and life will give more positive moments in time to come...whatever time is left in this life !